HCA PostingJust "so-called" finished with my case study for presentation tomorrow, hopefully it is sufficient as what is wanted, succinct as requested by the lecturer.
Was with HCA hospice last week went around for home visits to those who are ill and requires symptoms management, this group of patients can ranged from those that are quite alright to those that are really terminally ill.
Remember almost all my classmates will have something to share on facebook after the postings while I didn't really do so as compare, because there are simply too much to share.
My conclusion to the week of home visits is 家家有本難念的經，或許，祇要自己的經書不太難唸，我們就該感恩，而不是一味抱怨...學著去欣賞自家經書那澀中帶甜的味道，也是一種智慧吧？ (To every household there tend to be some problems, so long as the problem is not too disturbing, we should be grateful for that... It is a kind of wisdom to learn to appreciate the bittersweet moment in life too.)
I saw a lot of family problems, there are some families who are REALLY very very supportive despite of the fact that the patients can be really quite sick at times.
There was this day that I was at this double storey HDB flat, with an old lady lying in bed, gasping for air as though any minute it could be her last.
The house, was in those still quietness with no one, but the maid at home.
I sympathize that old lady.
Our mother took the risk to carry us, deliver us safely; our parents brought us up with much patience and love which I believe the children could never do enough to repay for that.
Think.
When we were a baby, we need to be fed, sometimes even at some wee hours as 3-4am.
Ask yourself,
If one day your parents/in-laws are so frail that they cannot even hold a spoon properly, would we feed them?
Think.
When we were young, we cannot control our bowels, our parents cleanse for us, washed us and made us comfortable.
Ask yourself,
If one day your parents/in-laws becomes incontinent, would you be able to do the same?
Think.
When we were young, our legs were short, our parents took smaller steps for us to catch up.
Ask yourself,
How long have you not been walking side by side with your parents/in-laws?
Think.
When we were sick, our parents/in-laws worry sick for us/our better half without much rest until we are well.
Ask yourself,
If our parents/in-laws are sick, who is the last one that stayed by the bed side?
I saw the fear, the fear on some of their face while asking me, "nurse, am I dying?"
And I know that all that they need, is a familiar face telling them, "don't fret, for I will be around to face this with you, we will fight together till the end."
Not everyone can see that.
It is SO often that in their last breathe, the one who stayed with them is not someone who is blood-related to them.
IT IS SURE SAD.
Being diagnosed with cancer is a LONG, LONELY battle. Not everyone can understand the implcations.
Moreover to fight it alone, or with someone unknown.
Why do I have to drag the "in-laws" earlier?
I guess it is just the society values, people nowadays are very self centered. It is not uncommon to see or hear things as "my parents is your parents but your parents has nothing to do with me" without remembering that if not for that "nothing to do with your parents" where did the person you claimed that you love came from? Stone? There is only one Monkey God for goodness sake.
It pains me to see the Granny lying in bed all alone, moaning while the whole house is empty.
So what if you can pay for the best maid?
So what if you could give a shelther?
So what if you could buy the most expensive suppliments for them?
SO WHAT?
S-O W-H-A-T?!?!?!
THEY CAN'T EVEN EAT WHEN THEY ARE SO ILL!
Sigh.
I was so disturbed and I wrote this, 這是一個奇怪的世界，有些兒女以為請了女傭有吃有住有錢給了父母就算了，卻往往最忽略了人生走到盡頭父母最需要的不是一張高級床褥山珍海味，而是一張熟悉能讓他們安心的面孔對他們說一句「別怕有我在陪你面對這即將到來的必然」，這才是無價。死了就甚麼都來不及了，陪屁啊？
Am I a little too agitated?
But just put yourself into their shoes, is that what you want in future?
