My classmate has shared 2 stories that she witness at her clinical postings, and I think it is worth sharing...
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A special kind of love
by Juzmean Tea on Thursday, 17 February 2011 at 00:12
today i witnessed a special kind of love
i met a blind lady and a blind man..they.lost thier way
i thought that they were just friends
and got to know that they are husband and wife
something special about them is that
They both got married 20 years ago when both were blind
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A special kind of love
by Juzmean Tea on Thursday, 17 February 2011 at 00:12
today i witnessed a special kind of love
i met a blind lady and a blind man..they.lost thier way
i thought that they were just friends
and got to know that they are husband and wife
something special about them is that
They both got married 20 years ago when both were blind
they cook for each other, go marketing together, go shopping together by bus and train
he was holding her hand and his cane
she was holding his hand and her cane
he was holding her hand and his cane
she was holding his hand and her cane
the wife got a bell tied to her cane and the husband got none...
so i Asked why only the wife's cane got bells...he said...so that he can hear her and find her...
i dropped his wife fork and i asked him to eat first while i get the fork,
when i'm back he gave his wife the fork, making sure she eats first because she was fasted that morning
he told me he came to hospital himself a couple of times while his wife was hospitalised, groping his way through to come hospital
when his wife accidentally knocked into the glass door....he was worried and blamed himself for not guiding her properly but actually it was my fault (bleah)
it may seems simple, nothing special, but as i was sitting there looking at them...it was those little actions that touched me....
cos it makes me realised, love is really BLIND....it is not loving someone because he/she is good looking or rich or special
but is because you can feel each other and truly love each other with your heart, even when you can;t see
it is loving someone even though he/ she is not perfect or got imperfection
it is helping your partner even though you are in the same shoe as him/her
it is placing your love one above yourself and suppot her, even though you know you are not very capable but at least you try
it is the little things you do for each other that demonstrates the love for each other....it is more than just " i love you", it is i accept you no matter who you are.....
it doesn't mean they are blind they are incapable of loving someone....as long as the feeling for each other is real , nothing can stop them
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another special kind of love....true story...
(SORRY FOR THE LATE ENTRY COS IT JUST STRIKES ME)
There was this lady, worked hard as a slave when she was young, cos her family was poor and she had to support her family
She got married and thought perhaps life will be easier,
but her husband was lazy to work, and she was the sole breadwinner
one day, her husband left her, without even telling her....
she was very upset, and she had to work hard to raise her only son
After working hard like a slave for 20 over years, her son got married and abandoned her
And there was no news of her husband,
somewhere during that period she was diagnose with cancer and has to go for surgery and high dose chemotherapy
one day , suddenly, her husband came back to her, after he failed his business
After so many years, so many years of missing out in her life, not even there for her when she needed him, made her go through so much hardship
this lady, accepted her husband-------i was like WOW..........i dun think i got such a big heart
subsequently,, this lady became very ill, and lost her sight due to chemo,
eventually,after battling the disease, , she recovered, but,...turned blind
unfortunately, her husband became demented, and relied on her to take care of him...
No income,
Blind,
no other carer...
stilll she is willing to take this ordeal,
change and bath him when he dirtied himself,
cooked for him
and have to bring him to doctor to check up,
find him when he ran out of house
and when she is sicked, admitted to hospital...she is more worried about someone taking care of her husband than her health...
and now her husband is sick....she is so worried....
Love is so powerful that she can accept him even he has done all these to her and eventually she has to take care of him.....refused to even bring him to nursing home...
i'm really....touched....and speechless
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(SORRY FOR THE LATE ENTRY COS IT JUST STRIKES ME)
There was this lady, worked hard as a slave when she was young, cos her family was poor and she had to support her family
She got married and thought perhaps life will be easier,
but her husband was lazy to work, and she was the sole breadwinner
one day, her husband left her, without even telling her....
she was very upset, and she had to work hard to raise her only son
After working hard like a slave for 20 over years, her son got married and abandoned her
And there was no news of her husband,
somewhere during that period she was diagnose with cancer and has to go for surgery and high dose chemotherapy
one day , suddenly, her husband came back to her, after he failed his business
After so many years, so many years of missing out in her life, not even there for her when she needed him, made her go through so much hardship
this lady, accepted her husband-------i was like WOW..........i dun think i got such a big heart
subsequently,, this lady became very ill, and lost her sight due to chemo,
eventually,after battling the disease, , she recovered, but,...turned blind
unfortunately, her husband became demented, and relied on her to take care of him...
No income,
Blind,
no other carer...
stilll she is willing to take this ordeal,
change and bath him when he dirtied himself,
cooked for him
and have to bring him to doctor to check up,
find him when he ran out of house
and when she is sicked, admitted to hospital...she is more worried about someone taking care of her husband than her health...
and now her husband is sick....she is so worried....
Love is so powerful that she can accept him even he has done all these to her and eventually she has to take care of him.....refused to even bring him to nursing home...
i'm really....touched....and speechless
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Many friends and relatives asked me, "Why oncology?"
I guess this is exactly like what Peifen said, there is a lot of things that the outsiders won't see and it actually helps us to understand and find meaning of life in this field of nursing.
And...
It is very attractive, at least that is how I feel.
=)
